 It almost never fails. You spend all of your waking hours putting together a company that looks like it will be successful and, in walks a "friend" who still works for someone else. Needless to say the "someone else" company is very large. Perusing the fruits of your labor the "friend" invariably places himself in the judgment role and begins to tell you about the new "whatsis" they got at the office today. The many ways that it outperforms yours are described in detail that even an electron microscope couldn't further enhance.
The only explanation for these actions is jealousy. Pure and simple. This individual certainly isn't trying to encourage you. This individual has momentarily broken away from his pack to tell the leader of another pack how great his pack leader is. He wants to be the leader of a pack. He may even speak with a certain overtone of doom. All in an attempt to make you feel inferior to his position. This is human nature. It isn't his fault. As a matter of fact you can probably turn this attempted emotional whipping to your advantage. It won't take much prodding to get him to tell you of the outcome of research you couldn't dream of affording. It would be too much to hope for that he would divulge any of his company's strategies, unless of course he is one of their senior salespersons (see: don't tell nobody nothin').
In many cases the individual thinks they are doing you some sort of favor. Don't let it get to you. Don't take it personally. This individual is pathetically reaching out to another for support for what he believes was a conscious decision on his part to remain employed by someone else.
If, on the other hand, this individual is truly bragging about his situation compared to yours, the best thing you can do is be patient. As your patience begins to wear thin, you must constantly remind yourself that this "friend" is extoling the virtues of his employers achievements. He knows nothing of personal innovation or adaptability. There is, therefore, a tendency to disguise your jealousy with a little anger, and this is OK! The best possible retort is "Great! But this is mine!
Conclusion:
Don't let it get to you! As you should know by now, this type of person is probably a little insecure and jealous of your position. They wish with all of their being that they were in your shoes. They feel pretty insignificant because they have to report to someone and you don't. Use their insecurity to your advantage. Get them to tell you something you need to know. What are their company's marketing plans. What new products are they going to introduce. They will tell you because they want to brag.
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